You see ehn… we have become the cause of our own issues.

One of the major things that almost ruined my life was my inability to properly call these “body parts” by name. It subconsciously built in me the inability to get sex education as my subconscious mind registered it that ‘these part should be talked about.’

The major reason why our boys and girls are in deep sexual trouble is because they don’t know what these body parts were made for.

While this might be shocking…… just ask a lady what is a penis for? and what you might hear is….” how can you ask me that kind of question” same will go for a guy when asked what is a vagina for.

You might either get a big grin or a laugh. At that point you got your answer already. But what if we ask what is the mouth used for, how about the leg? The response is different. I adopted a therapy that saved my life, I asked myself what these (Penis, vagina etc) body parts were made for and of cos the first expected answers came to mind (lol I no holy pass jare). But then again I asked myself, is that all they were made for?

And other answers began to come and I did what is called switch pattern in Neuro-congnitive consonance. So when I see a lady with large breasts my mind simply reads ‘there is enough milk for the child or the coming child’ and the ones with big backsides it’s simple….. They have what it takes to sit conformable without having to experience discomfort. I kept saying it and will keep saying it as it is sinking deep into my subconscious.

See ehnn narratives are very powerful …so now I have replaced lust with a proper definition. The matter of sexuality needs professional attention.

I’m not a sexuality expert but I Know people who can help you. I had a friend who confided in me; when she did I looked at her and assured her she will get all the help I can lay my hands on. I love sincere people, she said she has been battling with her pastor’s penis in her mind, she comes to church, he is preaching and she is looking at the penis.

The moment she told me I knew in my mind that she had worked out of the issue because the first line of defeat is to speak up to a trusted person who won’t judge. We laughed about it as I teased her with it, we discussed about solutions and ended the conversation. She was quite surprised that I didn’t appear disappointed or anything because the truth is that one way or the other we all need help.

Dear, your church people need help look closely and you will see that we have wounded people who can’t talk and is just moving on.

Arihilam Francis