Perry Martins
Celebrated female gospel music minister Lara George vehemently reacted to a post shared by a Pastor about the confession of a woman who is currently divorced because of domestic violence. According to the Pastor;
A WOMAN WROTE;
I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it’s good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws.
I am 32 years old. My ex hubby & I dated for six years. We were best of friends, I waited until he completed college and started work, my family and his family then met, we got married and had a son. (7 years old now).
My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he couldn’t control me.
Every time we argued, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he was controlling me I would always dare him that if he wished, he could divorce me. I never wanted divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look like a loose woman in his eyes. One day I pushed him so hard that for the first time he beat me and locked me outside. I went to my family, my family took him to the police, every time I looked like I was being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing was wrong.
My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall of which he openly knelt down and apologized. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he remained alone. After two days I
received a call that he was in the hospital, my family told me that I shouldn’t go there because it would look like I was begging him, and my sisters believed he was feigning the illness. All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused. He spent a week in the hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summon. I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me. I called him and said he would get the divorce because I lived like I was in hell. When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared. To my surprise he openly told the court that whatever he and I acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce.
We were divorced in 2009 July.
Now, this Saturday (today) my husband is marrying, whilst l am here wasted! My family members are gossiping about me, I depend on what my ex gives to my son for survival. I know I wasted my
marriage. I am here telling all wives that they should be careful how they get advise.
Don’t be cheated, don’t entertain family interference in your marriage my dear reader. Even my young sisters are much more respected than me. Those who encouraged me to get divorced are always teasing and bad mouthing me. Please ladies be vigilant in your marriage
Thought it wise to share my story to save your marriage.
There is no benefit in pride for nothing.#SOMETIMES IT’S NOT THE MAN’S FAULT AT ALL,IT’S YOUR PRIDE,AND THE PEOPLE YOU ALLOW TO ADVISE YOU. Copied
Lara George Speaks;
l’m really sorry but the article above just doesn’t sit right. I cannot condone an article that insinuates that a woman was beaten because it was HER fault. This is exactly the kind of view point that we have in this society that keeps women in abusive relationships. So, the man was emotionally abused and therefore decided to PHYSICALLY abuse his wife??? Abi? So the divorce happened because the woman was proud???? Please. We really need to carefully sift what we disseminate as accurate information. No woman in her right senses can write such an article. Women are being literally KILLED in our society because of abusive marriages. The bible tells men to treat women AS the weaker vessel. That means that no matter how strong she may seem, treat her AS IF she is the weaker vessel. Do you as a man fight with someone who is weaker than you? Even emotionally? Not to talk of physically? It is only a weak man who does not know who he is in Christ that will raise his hand against his wife. Please we are Christians and are called to a higher walk than everyone else out there. A woman is not a doormat in marriage. She is a crown and a glory and a joy. If a woman is a shrew, then it is because the man has made her into a shrew. After all, if she is only one rib of the man and came out of him, then it means she came out is a man-shrew. Is it not? And if she is successful and excellent, it also means her husband must be 1000 times more excellent than she is. After all, she is only ONE of his ribs!
Dear man. The MAN and NOT the woman, is the one who is responsible for keeping the home together. The man is the HEAD of the home. Real men need to take responsibility for whichever way their wife and even children turn out. It is FIRST the man’s responsibility. That is why you are not even supposed to be even a deacon if you cannot manage your home. This goes out to all the male-folk please. Let us have the mind of Christ, not the mind of culture that is blurred and fuzzy. In Christ Jesus, all is clear. Let the real mem please stand up and begin to love their wives as Christ loved the Church, willing to sacrifice for her even when she deserved it the least. This is what real men do. They love their wives into salvation. May God bless us all.
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