…And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” (Matt. 28:20 NIV)

When you find yourself alone at Christmas, sights and sounds that once brought joy can reinforce your sense of sadness and loss. There is no magic, get-well-quick formula; processing what you’ve lost takes time and God’s sustaining grace.

In our ‘Word for Today‘, lets see some insights that can help:

(1) Don’t assume. Don’t buy into the myth that everyone else is having a perfect Christmas while you struggle. The truth is, we all experience the unrealistic demands and pressures of shopping, entertaining and gift-giving. And it’s worse in times of heartache. That’s why we’re so relieved when it’s over.

(2). It’s just one day out of 365. You can handle it for twenty-four hours because God has promised to give you ‘strength…equal [to] your days’ (Deuteronomy 33:25 NIV).

(3) Take the focus off yourself. Reach out. See if there’s a needy family or a hurting acquaintance who’d enjoy spending an hour with you. It may be the last thing you feel like doing, but it is therapeutic, restores your perspective and brings a sense of well-being and gratitude.

(4) Start some new traditions, especially when old ones just make you feel worse. ‘Forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead’ (Philippians 3:13 NKJV).

If you’re feeling lonely, here’s a prayer for you.

‘Lord, you know my heart aches today. Your Word says you are close to the broken-hearted. Let me feel your nearness. Become more real to me than the activity without and the emptiness within. Help me draw close to you, and in so doing make this Christmas like none I’ve ever known.’