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Father’s Love – An epic worship melody by Simon Orumen

Father’s Love by Simon Orumen

In the ever-evolving landscape of gospel music, an artist who consistently stands as a beacon of inspiration is none other than Simon Orumen Emuraishe, better known by his stage name Simon Orumen. Through his soul-stirring melodies, he artfully weaves together the very essence of the Father’s divine truth, wisdom, knowledge, promises, and boundless power, creating a harmonious tapestry of faith and devotion.

Among his notable creations, the track “Evidence” stands out as a testament to Simon Orumen’s exceptional artistry. Since its initial release in December 2020, this song has garnered widespread recognition and acceptance, attesting to its profound impact on listeners. Similarly, “There For Me” exemplifies his musical prowess, each note resonating with a profound sense of belonging in Christ Jesus. Beyond the surface, Simon Orumen’s compositions don’t merely serve as songs, but rather as conduits that channel believers’ identities and evoke an intimate connection with God through heartfelt worship and gratitude.

One of his latest offerings, “Father’s Love,” stands as a resounding affirmation of God’s unwavering love for His children, echoing the timeless sentiment penned in the scriptures, “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1). With lyrics that echo this divine truth, the song encapsulates the depth of this love, inviting listeners to bask in the warmth of God’s embrace.

“Father’s Love” isn’t just a song; it’s a spiritual experience that transcends musical boundaries. Its placement on the playlist of every believer is not just a recommendation, but a necessity. As Simon Orumen continues to bless the world with his God-given talent, his music acts as a bridge between the earthly and the divine, ushering in a realm of reflection, connection, and heartfelt worship. In an era where the world is yearning for hope and solace, Simon Orumen’s musical ministry stands as a lighthouse, illuminating the path to a deeper understanding of the Father’s love.

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Music Lyrics: “Father’s Love”

Verse 1
Love like a father
You call me your own
Love like no other
You call me your friend

Precious Redeemer
You took my pain
You gave your joy to me
Now my life will never be the same

LISTEN TO AUDIO: “Father’s Love”

Chorus
I’m not alone
I am complete
Your love has captured me
I am secure
I’m rest assured
Your love brings perfect peace

Verse
Love so complete
Lacking in nothing
Love that absorbs
My fears and my flaws
This custom love

God you’ve been good
Untainted by my weakness
What a wonderful gift
The fragrance of bliss
The father in me

Chorus
I’m not alone
I am complete
Your love has captured me
I am secure
I’m rest assured
Your love brings perfect peace

Bridge
I am yours
You are mine
I’m in you and you’re in me
I was lost but you came and called me your own.

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Amazing Singer Anny releases a beautiful single- Running Over

RUNNING OVER is a sensational song born out of the experiences of God’s consistent blessings in the life of Anny, regardless of her down times.

This gospel song is carefully written, arranged and produced in response to acknowledging God’s repeated display of love to humanity.

The song will bless as many who get the opportunity to listen to it.

Follow Anny On Social media

Instagram: https://instagram.com/anny_sings

Facebook: https://facebook.com/annyloveemmanuel

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Gospel singer, Mercy Chinwo spotted with visible baby bump as she unveils new project- Elevated(video)

Although the singer hasn’t announced yet she’s expecting but fans have started raining congratulatory messages for her baby bump and her new video (Wonder), as she was spotted with a visible baby bump in a video she shared online. 

The gospel singer, who is married to the resident pastor of The Waterbrook Church, Pastor Blessed, took to her Instagram page on Wednesday 12, April 2023 to unveil her new project, an Ep titled Elevated.

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Gospel singer Tim Godfrey announces his engagement to his fiancée

Nigerian Gospel singer Timothy Godfrey popularly known as Tim Godfrey has finally proposed to his fiancee and are set to tie the knot.

This singer shared photos of the proposal on his Instagram page a few hours ago revealing how his fiancee changed his life.

Tim Godfrey expressed appreciation to his fiancee for accepting his proposal and sharing life with her is the best thing that happened to him.

He captioned the photos: Meeting you changed my life. Meeting you brought unending smiles.
Most importantly, meeting you was and is my GREATEST REWARD from GOD.
Thank you for saying YES!!!

I can’t imagine how I have lived without you all my life… but guess what? I would have Waited forever till we cross part. But thank God, this blissful and Heaven made Journey has started.

I want to find love again – Actress, Ebun Hodo
After giving my life to Christ…
Sharing life with you is the best thing that has happened to me.No measure of time with you will be enough, But let’s start with forever . “EKJ” You are my STILL WATERS!!!

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Cade Thompson Pens Love Song “Dear Future Wife”

Love is in the air and Red Street Records’ Cade Thompson has penned a honest and tender-hearted love song titled “Dear Future Wife”.

“Dear Future Wife” is available now to download or stream.

Written as a letter to his future spouse, the intimate lyrics make listeners feel they are stumbling across Thompson’s personal journal.

“Maybe you are feeling broken / But I know you’re beautiful / And the God who loves us both Is gonna make you whole”

The 20-year-old opened up about the song, saying,

“I wrote the song Dear Future Wife last year in the middle of quarantine. If I am honest I think about my future wife a lot.

What does she look like? Have I met her? How can I be a better man for her before I meet her?

I think a lot of people can relate to those same questions regarding relationships.

I can get distracted by the temptations of this world and this song is an anthem to help me keep the fight to become the best man I can be for my future wife.

Through this song I hope listeners will be reminded that the waiting is worth it, as you trust God with your journey.”

“Dear Future Wife” is produced and arranged by Jay DeMarcus, Red Street Records founder.

DeMarcus’ has brought a musical diversity and expertise to the track that perfectly completes the song.

“Dear Future Wife” is a must-hear track for anyone looking to fill their heart with a little extra love.

In addition to this exclusive release, Thompson’s current hit “Every Step of the Way,’ is being played on Christian AC and Hot AC/CHR radio across the country including KLOVE.

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10 Signs of Emotional Abuse in a Relationship

Any relationship can include emotional abuse. At the core of all abuse is the need to have power and control.

Any one of us can feel the need to control things or someone else. It becomes a real problem when someone is being emotionally or physically hurt because of that need for power and control.

This is when a relationship has reached a toxic level and needs an intervention.

Toxic relationships left to escalate could lead to dangerous situations where no one is safe.

What is Emotional Abuse?

Barbara Shaffer, Ph.D. in Christian Counseling, defines emotional abuse as

“an attitude of entitlement and profound disrespect that discounts at every turn the inherent right of the other person to dignity, separateness and autonomy. Out of entitlement and disrespect spring various overt behaviors that use anger, violence and/or contempt to induce fear, guilt and shame. The other person is controlled, punished or demeaned.”

Harsh words and selfish actions coming from someone who should love you and protect you, kills a spirit slowly and methodically.

If you live with someone or are close to someone with this kind of behavior – a parent, spouse or friend – you will begin to lose track of reality and truth.

Am I really crazy? Am I really an idiot? Maybe if Idid this, things would get better? Maybe if I cooked better, dressed better, spent less, served more, spoke less, I wouldn’t deserve to be treated this way? But maybe I really do deserve this?

If you’re experiencing any of these signs, especially more than one, you need to take your situation very seriously.

Safety should be top priority even if there has never been any physical violence. Resources are provided at the end of this article.

Now let’s take a look at the 10 most telling signs of emotional abuse to be aware of:

1. Uses threats and coercion to manipulate.

1. Uses threats and coercion to manipulate.

Emotional blackmail is a manipulation tactic where someone uses phrases that they know will cause an emotional response in order to get their way or to keep themselves at the center of all of the attention.

Making threats that he or she is “going to kill himself/herself” when you want to be alone or do something for yourself is abusive.

They are using this phrase, not because they’re seriously suicidal, but because they know you’ll turn your focus back to him/her, feeling the need to help keep him/her alive and show you care.

We should always take threats for suicide seriously unless we know it’s just a threat from an emotional abuser.

Another common manipulative phrase is, “(s)he’s going to leave you, divorce you, and take your children, leaving you with nothing,” each time you have a disagreement.

(S)he throws the word divorce, or similar phrases meaning the same thing, around like it’s no big deal.

But really it destroys the security of your relationship.

(S)he often has no way or desire to carry out these threats but (s)he uses them because they succeed at giving him/her what (s)he wants: power and control.

Lastly, (s)he may even use verses from the Bible to get his/her way.

1 Corinthians 7:3-4 was not written as a weapon to coerce the other spouse.

Using the Bible in such a way is sexual and emotional abuse, as well as manipulation.

2. Uses intimidation to control.

2. Uses intimidation to control.

When you know you can’t say no because you see the looks and gestures.

You fear anger or punishment for whatever you say or do.

When you feel scared, like you’re walking on eggshells not to upset him/her most of the time, you might be dealing with emotional abuse.

(S)he doesn’t have to use physical abuse because intimidation is working to control you.

His/her unspoken threats of punishment and violence are enough.

Need some more warning signs? When you make decisions based on what would make your partner happy.

When you stop working, stop participating in things you love to do, or getting your education because of someone else’s unhappiness with what you’re doing to better yourself, that’s a huge red flag that you’re not an equal partner in the relationship.

You’re being controlled and emotionally abused.

3. Blaming or making you responsible for his or her problems.

husband and wife arguing with each other on couch looking angry, emotional abuse in relationship

 

Do you feel like it’s your job to take care of everything?

When your partner has a problem (not related to you) or is angry with someone else, do you feel you get brought in the middle of the entire situation, to fix everything and make him/her happy.

Does (s) he make you do illegal things or cover for his/her illegal or immoral behavior?

When your entire family is mad at your partner and you’re supposed to tell them (s)he’s not that bad.

When (s)he screams at the kids, it’s your job to tell them (s)he didn’t really mean it and that mommy/daddy is sorry.

Or when (s)he blames you because his/her life is a mess and expects you to make it better. These are your red flags.

It’s not your job to make someone else happy, fix their problems, cover their sins, or make their life easier.

Each of us is responsible for our own loads, our own conduct, and our own feelings.

But an emotional abuser tries to make you responsible so (s)he doesn’t have to be.

Then (s)he may blame you for not fixing things how (s)he wanted them fixed.

“For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” – Galatians 6:5 NLT

4. Using the children and male privilege.

4. Using the children and male privilege.

 

An emotional abuser often wants to be the center your life, even before God.

They expect your world to revolve around them and often expect to be worshipped.

When children come along and they see you caring for them, as you once did them, they may become very jealous of that bond.

They may say things like, “you love them more than you love me” to make you feel guilty for caring for and loving your children.

Once the kids are older, they will say things to them or to you in front of them to cause division between your children and you.

(S)he will treat you with disrespect, which teaches the children how you should be treated.

Keeping secrets while going against your wishes just to make themselves the fun parent while you’re the mean one.

There’s never a united parenting plan and children are often drug in the middle, used to relay messages, treated differently by both parents, and used as pawns to keep her under his control.

When the man is the abuser, he may even say, “I’m the head of the household,” to excuse his abusive behaviors and need for power and control.

He expects her to be the servant while he’s the master of the castle with all the privilege – defining the roles.

This is what often leads abuse victims to escape.

We often assume that children are never involved in an abusive marriage, and that he’s a good father besides the abuse, but that’s not true.

A child witnessing this is learning how men act and how women are to be treated.

A child, who grows up in this type of environment, is at risk for repeating the patterns in his or her own marriage.

5. Controlling all the household money.

5. Controlling all the household money.

 

If you have to beg for money, if money is hidden from you, or money is spent on illegal or immoral acts but there is nothing you can do about it, you may be dealing with financial abuse, for which the main purpose is to hurt you emotionally.

Someone who is cruel to allow you and your children to go hungry or without your basic needs being met is an abuser.

When (s)he doesn’t feel bad about making you beg for money or stand in the food bank line to eat, while (s)he’s well fed.

(S)he abandons you and then refuses to pay the bills (s)he’s always paid.

When (s)he doesn’t pay child support unless (s)he’s forced.

Lying about and hiding money to keep you from getting any of it (when you’ve always been trustworthy with money), are all forms of financial abuse.

“Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” – 1 Timothy 5:8 NIV

6. Sabotages other relationships and decides who you spend time with and who you talk to.

6. Sabotages other relationships and decides who you spend time with and who you talk to.

 

Remember, if the goal of emotional abuse is to have power and control over you, an abuser doesn’t want you to have a support system of people who love you, who you love more than you do him/her, or who may help you escape his/her control.

(S)he often seeks to be the center of attention so if you have other relationships, better relationships even with your children, then (s)he wants to ruin them.

(S)he may do what we call triangulate – which means to tell two different people, two different stories about the other person – to cause a problem in that relationship.

For example, in the case of a male abuser, he may tell his mother you don’t like her while telling you that she doesn’t like you.

Now you and his mother are no longer friends because he’s lied to both of you and neither of you are talking.

He’s now gained all of the control and he’s in the center of it all.

He’ll move her away from her support system.

Limit her outside involvement with other people, friends, and church.

He’ll tell her that talking to her friends is hurting their relationship.

And he’ll use jealousy and say he’s neglected to justify his actions.

I’m not talking about him advising you about unhealthy relationships and having boundaries.

I mean when someone purposely ruins healthy relationships that were helping you getting the support you need to see unhealthy, abusive behaviors for what they are.

7. Prevents you from working or attending school to better yourself.

7. Prevents you from working or attending school to better yourself.

An abuser doesn’t want you to get an education, make more money, or become a better or smarter person.

(S)he will either vocally say that you can’t work or go to school. Or (s)he’ll deliberately sabotage your efforts.

Covert sabotage happens when you’re trying to get an education or work but his/her needs or wants have to come first.

(S)he won’t allow you time away from him to work on projects. Might show up at your job, which could get you fired.

(S)he might use guilt to make you feel bad for working or going to school so you’ll want to quit.

Whatever (s)he needs to do to turn your focus away from working or going to school and back onto him/her.

In healthy relationships, both partners make sacrifices while one partner is doing what is best for them – self-care, educational goals, career goals, and more.

Emotional abusers like to control when, if ever, you does something for yourself.

His/her goal is often to keep you trapped in the relationship and always putting him/her first and yourself last.

8. Verbal attacks, insults, demeaning or degrading words or actions.

parents yelling at each other

 

Raising your voice and yelling is not emotional abuse since all of us yell at some point.

Having feelings and emotions, especially about how someone is hurting you, expressing them forcefully, or being angry is not emotional abuse.

Screaming inches from someone’s face in a fit of rage, using profanity and insults, especially while you’re crying and asking him/her to stop, is.

It’s attacking and demeaning.

To demean someone is to be mean, unconcerning, and even cruel.

Calling you fat when you’ve put on a few pounds, especially if (s)he knows that extra weight bothers you.

Calling you ugly because you haven’t put on makeup today.

Saying you’re stupid because you don’t understand something as quickly as (s)he does or because you spelled something incorrectly.

Calling you curse words when you have a disagreement and crazy when you have feelings (because all humans do).

These are all ways someone demeans you to feel bad about yourself.

Most times this makes him/her feel superior to you, which gives him/her the feeling of power.

And (s)he’s now been able to control your emotions, too.

9. Blames you for the abuse, calls you the abuser, or gaslights you to believe you’re crazy for thinking you’re being abused.

9. Blames you for the abuse, calls you the abuser, or gaslights you to believe you’re crazy for thinking you’re being abused.

Psychological abuse is the more sinister and hidden form of emotional abuse.

These are often covert words or actions that are hard to see and explain.

You know something is going on, you know your relationship is dysfunctional, but you can’t quite describe it.

Have you tried to share your feelings or a problem you have only to end up feeling like you’re crazy for feeling that way?

Or if only you were a better person, not so abusive, there wouldn’t be a problem in the first place?

Are you’re made out to be hysterical for even thinking there is an issue to talk about?

Every person is entitled to his or her feelings.

Each of us should take the time to listen to the feelings of others, even if those feelings have to do with something we’ve done.

When conversations seem to go in circles, when you’re blamed, called abusive for having feelings about his actions, and when (s)he tells you your feelings are invalid because (s)he doesn’t understand or any other reason, you could be experiencing emotional abuse.

If you feel blamed each time you try to express your feelings or when you address a problem, this might be something worse than a communication problem.

Instead, this other person might be trying to control you, your mind, and your feelings.

10. Destroys your property, break things, abuses pets or threatens to.

10. Destroys your property, break things, abuses pets or threatens to.

Often people think that if they are not being punched, kicked, or beaten then they are not experiencing domestic violence.

That’s just not true.

Violence and abuse includes physically harming animals, punching walls, pushing, standing in your way when you’re trying to leave, and all the other points mentioned before this.

It is a huge red flag when the abuse is escalating to things getting broken or someone else getting hurt.

It’s time to seek help from someone trained to help victims of abuse.

Physical violence towards you could be next, especially if you’re trying to escape.

His/her anger is not the problem; it’s his/her need for power and control.

And no amount of good behavior on your part is going to stop that need.

“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.” – Proverbs 22:24-25 NIV

Both women and men should stand up against any type of abuse on any human being or animal.

If not married, then a marriage should not be planned until we know the abuse will not continue in the future.

If married, then seek out professional help via a counselor or even the local domestic violence agency.

Their services are not just for women or for those experiencing physical violence.

You don’t need a physical bruise to get help from a domestic violence shelter.

They know that sometimes the abuser’s first act of violence is his/her last.

 

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Phil Thompson Weds Takiyah

My Worship” Singer-songwriter, Phil Thompson has finally tied the knot with his long-time best friend Takiyah Romain.

The wedding ceremony has long been anticipated ever since the lovely couple got engaged in October 2019.

Taking to social media with joy in his heart, Thompson shared two adorable photos, giving fans a glimpse from the beautiful ceremony.  

“The happiest day of my life. I married my soul mate….my best friend….”

 The celebrated worship artist captioned on the post.

Fans and music lovers globally, alongside top industry gospel celebrities have poured out their felicitation with the Stellar Award Nominee.

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Tips to Remain Happily Married

The joy and happiness that comes with being married newly is unimaginable, but sustaining it at the long run is where the challenge lies. Here are few tips you must engage to make your relationship stronger and healthier.

Appreciate your partner.

People often think they appreciate their partner and are surprised to discover that their partner doesn’t feel appreciated. It’s one thing to appreciate your partner, and it’s an entirely different skill to show that appreciation, through words and actions, in a way that truly registers.

A generic comment of appreciation like, “Thanks so much,” or “That was great,” probably won’t hit the spot. But if you can articulate what you’re grateful for, your words will go a lot further. Show appreciation by being specific: “Thank you, Joe, for choosing a great restaurant.

I really enjoyed the meal – and your company even more so!”

When you are tuned in to what is meaningful to your partner, he/she will feel loved, understood, and appreciated. An added bonus is that your partner is likely to start showing you appreciation as well.

Don’t be artificial, just be you. 

Have you ever met someone and then somewhere along the way they changed? You may wonder what happened to them and who they really are. Or have you ever put on airs or pretend to be something that you’re not just because you thought someone else would want that? Instead of simply being yourself, sometimes you’re acting like someone you’re not.

Why do we do that?

Sometimes it’s because we are afraid that who we are won’t be what someone else wants. However, what someone should want is the genuine you. We all want someone to like the real us. That’s crucial to forging an authentic connection and relationship.

If you pretend to be someone or something else, your date won’t know the real you. They may be drawn to who you’re pretending to be, but is that ultimately what you want? A phony relationship means no relationship.

The best advice is don’t be artificial – just be yourself. The person who is meant for you will love and appreciate you. Anyone who doesn’t like you is obviously not for you. And remember, being yourself includes being your best self, and that’s not being artificial at all!

Pay attention, notice what bothers someone. 

Have you ever been in a relationship and felt like someone was doing something purposely to bother you? It’s more likely that what they were doing was a nervous habit rather an attempt to intentionally bother you.

Or maybe you were in a relationship where you felt like the other person didn’t care enough about you because they wouldn’t stop doing the thing that bothered you even after you asked them to stop.

Why can’t someone just stop the offending behaviour after you tell them the first time?

Pay attention to what bothers your partner and stop the offending action. Sometimes someone will tell you in a straightforward way that something bothers them.

Your partner may expect you to just know. Either way, start to pay more attention to verbal and nonverbal cues. Paying better attention is key to building and maintaining a loving and caring relationship.

Kindness is everything.

Develop the habit of being kind. Thinking positively about your partner may make you feel good, but it doesn’t show him or her how you feel. Use kindness to show your partner how you feel about them. You can use any method you prefer. If you’re a writer send them a note.

If you enjoy buying small tokens or gifts, go shopping for them. Remember to be thinking of them as you’re doing the act. Be sure you’re doing the kindness for them and not for yourself. Random or little acts of kindness will build your connection and make your relationship stronger.

May your relationship grow stronger and be built on a foundation of connection and joy.

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A Must Read – Guide on Successful Christian Dating

Love for God

The golden rule in Christian dating is to love God. Mark 12:30 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this [is] the first commandment. KJV.

No one will truly love you if they don’t love God more than they love you. And you will not truly love anyone else if you don’t love God first. God is the Beginning and the Foundation of all things. It becomes difficult to impart this love for God in your children if you don’t have it yourself.

If we focus and spend our strength more on other things like relationship, and not on God, we will definitely not date well. So for a successful dating, we must love God more than we love whoever we want to date.

Date within the faith

2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? KJV

Visiting the church alone does not make one a christian. And not making effort to put sin to death in his/her life does not make one a Christian either. Have you observed his seriousness and willingness to grow in faith through discipleship?

What are the testimonies about him from those around him? Remember you’re looking for who will compliment what you have and help you grow in faith.

Look out for the people who know you best, love you most, and will tell you when you’re wrong. Do not compromise your own beliefs to find a match that may not have same spiritual aim as you.

Get advice from the right people

You do not go to the auto mechanic to inquire about your health. So can you not go to the people outside your faith for advice on dating.

There are elders and other Christians couples you envy their marriages you can go to for advice when you need one. Your tested friends who can tell you the truth no matter how it hurts, are also there to help you.

There could be temptations to seek advice from the internet where non believers and teenager are offering solutions, especially solutions that appeal to what you thought or what you wanted in the first place.

The truth is that we all need people who truly know us and love us, and who want what’s best for us, even when it’s not what we want in the moment. They’re there to assist us.

Use the social media wisely

It’s not advisable to look for them online. It’s a tradition for people to show their best and hide their weaknesses on social media. I’m sure that’s not the best place to go looking for someone to date.

It doesn’t mean that God cannot use the social media. There’s nothing God cannot use. After all, He gave us the mind to think out many inventions, of which social media is one of them. But it’s unlikely one can get petrol in a shopping mall other than at the petrol station.

Any connection on social media should be based on Christian values and it should be made a public knowledge to distinguish the serious ones from the ones who go there to have fun.

Don’t be in a hurry

Being in a hurry will blind you to so many things. Take your time to observe and let it grow. What matters is the quality of the relationship. Quality is not achieved overnight, neither is it achieved in a hurry.

Watch out for lust. Is the connection and what you know about them a true one? Whenever you feel you’re too fast, slow down and double-check yourself.

Being too fast most times may be as a result of lust and not having enough information or interaction. Take it easy and let it grow gradually and naturally.

Being open to a friendship can blossom into something more

Relationships often kick starts from collection of interests, church events, or through discipleship. There are more than enough time to meet during Christian meetings and fellowships. Being in the same group in the Church brings people together.

Interactive sessions expose you to like minds. Friendships start from such places, and it can develop into something serious.

Physical appearance may not be the drive here, but one’s personality, shared interests and spiritual growth. One’s godliness and growth in faith are easily observed during theses moments. And answers to your questions are found in the process of time.

The man should show leadership

Whatever happens, the man has been given the authority to lead. That’s the position God reserved for him. So he should be able to show direction, and lead in the way as it should be when the dating advances into marriage.

Maintain your purity

Christians are allowed to date like others. But here lies the difference between our dating and their dating. Staying sexually pure during dating is common sense for those who hold a high regard of godliness. Avoid all situations that bring both of you together alone indoors.

Dating often isolates us from other Christians in our lives. The closer we become, the more removed we are from other important relationships. 

Resist the temptation. Dating in groups or in public is the best way for Christians to date. Get family and good friends involved, who will raise a flag when the relationship is becoming unhealthy.

Date with the right desire

The primary aim for dating is for marital relationship. Coming together of man and wife is not a sin. It’s ordained by God. Therefore, it’s a right desire to want to come together as husband and wife.

It’s a desire implanted in us by the Creator Himself. Some date just to escape loneliness or boredom. Some others date simply because they feel they’re of age. Dating without the intention to be married is giving yourself over to a wrong desire.

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WHAT IS THE ANCHOR ⚓ OF YOUR LOVE FOR GOD?

So when they had dined, Jesus saith to Simon Peter, Simon, son of Jona, lovest thou me more than these? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee. He saith unto him, Feed my lambs.

16 He saith to him again the second time, Simon, son of Jona, lovest thou me? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee. He saith unto him, Feed my sheep.

17 He saith unto him the third time, Simon, son of Jona, lovest thou me? Peter was grieved because he said unto him the third time, Lovest thou me? And he said unto him, Lord, thou knowest all things; thou knowest that I love thee. Jesus saith unto him, Feed my sheep. (John. 21:15-18)

I have been considering the level of ‘look-warmness’ in the Body of Christ, and I began to wonder why somebody who was so hot for God, all of a sudden became so cold and reluctant !

Then the answer came through the above scripture!

Sometimes we believers erroneously assume we LOVE God,  until one day something happens, then we discover that that Love was actually fueled by something we have or something we desire to have.

There’s an acid test for genuine Love!

And God always permit us to pass through that test! Not because he is wicked, but for Him to know how He deals with each one of us.

The question is: What is the Anchor  of your Love ?… Hmmmm

Because you were told that the moment you give your life to Christ, the lines will fall in pleasant places for you!

So you decided to be serious with God…

Because you needed a good job, you wanted to get married, you needed a house or a car, you even wanted to be famous as a man of God etc. But three years down the line, nothing seems to be happening !

Then you sit down and see yourself as the worst human, your mate has gone far remember.

At this time you have been given a responsibility in the church, so going back to the world is not an option, and there’s no fuel again to drive you forward.  So you remain a normal church worker…

Note: This happens unconsciously!

Am relating to you why people are getting tired in the body of Christ…

Lets draw or example from two great people in the Bible:

 Job and John the Baptist.

We are all familiar with the Story of Job, but there’s something I want to show us:

When Satan was roaming around the Earth, all he saw was the riches of Job, his children, his house, his cars, his marriage, his ministry etc.

So when God said to Satan “have you considered my servant Job”?

Satan responded “ah! God leave that thing, Job is simply loving you because of one of these things..” (Job. 1:8-11 Paragraphed)

Just touch any of those things, and you will see his love for you melting like wax; to extent that he will curse you!

But unknown to him (Satan) that non of these things can move Job (According to Paul Apostle).

Maybe because he had Job said he is afraid of his children’s death, so he began to destroy everything including his children…

And Satan was so shocked; that non of those things could make Job to curse God… And he (Job) boldly declared “Though he slay me, I’ll yet trust Him”…(Job 13:15).

 What is that thing that if it doesn’t go the way you wanted it to go, you will be offended in God?

Is it your ministry or your marriage, is it your job, your education?

The Bible says “in ALL THINGS, GIVE THANKS!”

Let’s consider John the Baptist

Jesus testified about this great prophet as the greatest (Matt.11:11).

But listen John when convenient was attacked by the devil

 And said unto him, Art thou he that should come, or do we look for another? Matt. 11:3

This was a man who announced publicly that Jesus is the Christ that should come!

So he wasn’t just trying to know God neither was he still growing in the Faith….as we call it.

 I have seen men of God who’s passion for God has died; no zeal, no drive! All they do is just climb the alter, perform and come down!

 This is a very serious issue, and it will help us from trying to equate God to things!

 Am I saying God does not bless? Capital NO.

God takes pleasure in our prosperity, but it is a risk to make these pleasures your priorities; because you will become a cheap victim in the hands of the devil

Paul Apostle said “What shall separate us from the love of God?” Then he began to count… (Rom. 8:35)

 *What is the Anchor ⚓ of your LOVE for God?*

*Loves thou me more than these?* Mat. 6:33. My prayer for us is that nothing shall succeed in quenching our passion any more! That we will take off our eyes from results and focus on the one who is the SOURCE of Results in Jesus Mighty name! Amen.